It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
The success of marriage comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the
ability of both partners to adjust to the real person they ineveitably realize they
Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly
understood that they are on the same side.
The development of a really good marriage is not a natural process.
It is an achievement.
David and Vera Mace
Being married is like having somebody permanently in your corner,
it feels limitless, not limited.
Gloria Steinem 2000, upon marrying for the first time at age 66
The hardest-learned lesson: that people have only
their kind of love to give, not our kind.
Real giving is when we give to our spouses what’s important to them,
whether we understand it, like it, agree with it, or not.
Michele Weiner-Davis, Divorce Busting
Common courtesy plays a big role in happy marriages. People who are permanently married are polite to one another. They don’t want to hurt one another’s feelings, and they don’t try to make the other one feel humiliated. People who are married for life are extremely kind to one another.
What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?
To get divorced because love has died, is like selling your car
because it’s run out of gas.
Diane Sollee, smartmarriages.com
Be presidents of each other’s fan clubs.
You win or the relationship wins.
The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands.
The best proof of love is trust.
Happy marriages are based on a deep friendship. By this I mean a mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other’s company.
The grass is greener….when it’s watered.
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how
compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.
Why is it that people get married?
Because we need a witness to our lives.
There’s a billion people on the planet.
What does any one life really mean?
But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything…
The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things,
All of it… all the time, every day.
You’re saying “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.
Your life will not go unwitnessed – because I will be your witness.
Wife in the movie, Shall We Dance? 2004
What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are
joined for life – to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each
other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with
each other in silent, unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting.
George Elliott (aka Mary Anne Evans)
I think a man and a woman should choose each other for life, for the
simple reason that a long life with all its accidents is barely enough time for
a man and a woman to understand each other and. . . to understand – is to love.
William Butler Yeats
Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship,
I like not only to be loved, but to be told that I am loved; the realm of
silence is large enough beyond the grave.
It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the
marriage that sustains your love.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer, writing to a young bride and groom from his prison cell in
Nazi Germany in 1943
Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up.
The first duty of love is to listen.
Love is no assignment for cowards.
Motto for the bride and groom:
We are a work in progress with a lifetime contract.
For a marriage to have any chance, every day at least six things should go unsaid.
A simple enough pleasure, surely, to have breakfast alone with one’s husband, but how seldom married people in the midst of life achieve it.
Anne Morrow Lindbergh
The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make – not just on your wedding day, but over and over again – and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.
Barbara De Angelis
A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins.
Love one another and you will be happy. It’s as simple and as difficult as that.
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
Robert C. Dodds
A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.
Ruth Bell Graham
Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.
Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.