Helping couples heal

We just completed another Hold Me Tight workshop. It has been an amazing journey to lead and present these workshops. I am in awe of the courage couples have to come to these couples weekends and give what they do in an effort to grow and save their marriage.

With each Hold Me Tight workshop, the tension, discomfort and skepticism when the group comes in is palpable. And I sit with this anxious anticipation of holding this information knowing the impact it is going to have and wanting to package it up and hand it over immediately, but I have to sit back and allow it to unfold at the necessary pace. It’s a process. And it’s amazing to observe.

I know the information is sound, it’s scientific, it resonates with everyone who learns it, there isn’t anyone who doesn’t get it when they are presented with it, whether in the workshop, or in my counseling office. But it still doesn’t cease to amaze me when I watch it work. And in such a short time, over the course of 2 days. I want everyone to have it. I want every couple to come and do this.

The first day is rough. I won’t sugar coat it. It’s the digging in and digging deep. It’s entering into the dark and painful places to draw into awareness what is happening, to identify the raw parts and make sense of them. To gain clarity on the stuck places and why they are happening. It’s raw and it’s real. And then the second day is when the healing comes. It’s identifying, ok, we know now what goes wrong….how do we fix it? And that’s where the magic happens. Just as the tension and skepticism is palpable on day one, the closeness and comfort and love and hope  is equally palpable on day 2. You can see and feel the transformation in the air amongst the couples in the room. And it is such a wonderful thing to be part of. Every couple that comes through my office inspires me. I learn and I grow and I am in awe. And I am grateful.

I love that I get to do this work. I am honored by the couples who put their trust in me to guide them toward healing and bonding and reconciliation. And I continue to be inspired by the courage it takes to look inside and do this hard but wholly worthwhile work.

Jodi Clarke (my presenting partner) and I both leave these workshops feeling jubilated and proclaiming we want to do them every weekend! They are so powerful and meaningful and satisfying. I hope you’ll join us. Our next workshop is August 26th and 27th. You can get more information at www.holdmetightknoxville.com.

Wishing you love and happiness always,

Dana

A marriage counseling story

This is my second month writing the stories of couples who come through my doors. As I stated in my first article, not every story will be a success story. But I hope each one is one that you can learn from. I hope to bring to light the struggles of many couples so others might realize they are not alone.

This story is not the story of one couple, but a story that I have seen repeated one too many times. (Names are fictional).

Joe and Mary have been married for 18 years. They have two children who are now 13 and 16 years old. Joe is a hard worker and dedicates himself to his career. He believes that by providing well for his family, he is doing his job as a husband and father. He puts in 60 to 80 hours a week and has for the last 20 years. He has done quite well in his career and provides a nice lifestyle for his wife and kids.

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Christian Marriage Counseling

Christian Marriage Counseling in Knoxville

Christian Marriage Counseling is also available from Healing Hearts. Working out a couples relationship through faith will bring two partners in a difficult marriage back together into a deeper partnership. By using communication, prayer and intention, you can re-establish a loving relationship in union with the Lord.

For some couples, having a Christian perspective can help deal with difficult marital issues. Whether you are dealing with communication issues, financial difficulties, conflicts and arguing, infidelity, past hurts and distrust, christian marriage counseling can help guide you toward growing and learning together, understanding each other on a deeper level, forgiveness, rebuilding honesty and trust, and strengthening your connection to each other and to your faith in God.

Christian Marriage Counseling focuses on principles of dignity, kindness, respect, honesty, integrity, boundaries, love, giving, and how those principles relate to your marriage while keeping God in focus as the guidepost for your marriage and family.

Divorce Counseling

How to go forward from here

Whether you are trying to decide if you should divorce, or have already made the decision, counseling can help you deal with the process and emotions involved.

Divorce can be a painful process and can lead to feelings of grief and loss even if it was the right decision for you. Counseling can help heal these difficult feelings, bring relief from pain, increase understanding to gain clarity on the relationship and closure.

Divorce counseling can help you understand the patterns that occurred that led to this place, how to gain clarity and grow from the experience so that patterns are not repeated in future relationships, and that you don’t carry the wounds from this into your next relationship.

If children are involved, you will never truly be divorced. It is important that you learn effective skills of communication post-divorce so that your are able to peacefully co-parent together. You can enter into this type of counseling individually or together.

Family counseling can help your children understand their own feelings and how to manage the changes that are happening in their lives.

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